Being fired can be compared to the stress that a person receives after a divorce or the death of a loved one. Hands down, life becomes meaningless, the future does not exist.

At first, it is difficult to objectively assess the situation, all the more to see the benefits of such a situation. The idea that everything that is not done is done for the better does not even arise. What good is it that someone took away the source of income? Someone outside decided that it was time for you to tie the belt tighter, and you are worth nothing in this life. The first desire comes to take revenge, screw up the last and do everything so that the authorities bite their elbows from such a decision.

It is necessary to leave with dignity. After all, his future life will largely depend on how the dismissed person behaves.

You can go into a steep dive, and not get out of it. Or you can pull off a great trick and come out the winner. Nobody is insured against anything, especially against job loss. Any loss entails a decrease in self-esteem. If your husband has left you, it means you are unlucky and ugly. If she was kicked out of her job, it meant she was stupid and unreliable. Self-esteem is rolling down with frantic force, and resentment is gaining momentum.

• Why were you fired?
• Am I the worst employee?
• Always and everything is decided for me.
• I am nothing, a loser and unlucky.

When such thoughts come to mind, then immediately you need to rebuff them.

The opinion of one person, even the boss, means absolutely nothing. Does not reflect the true reasons and attitudes towards you.

Perhaps a godfather or matchmaker should just come to your place. Or maybe you're too sexy for the boss's wife to dislike. But you never know what! Often you have nothing to do with this, or have anything to do with it, but indirectly.

Life did not begin with work, nor will it end with it. In any situation, you should always look for a positive experience.

Do not complain about the injustice of life, but ask the question: "What did life want to show by this?" If you find the answer, you will rise one step higher in your development.

Practice proves that most often two groups of people lose their jobs:

1. Inert;
2. workaholics.

These are the two opposites.

1. The former live by inertia, work because they need to, without moral or material satisfaction. He does not quit himself, because he has already scored on everything for a long time, does not do what he likes, does not develop, but is simply serving time, as in prison. And when such a person is fired, then life simply through someone else's lips and actions informs that the person has ceased to live, but simply exists, like a plant.
2. The second (workaholics) replaced their whole life with work. Work for them is mother, wife, and children. At this time, the Ego weakens, a person tries to be comfortable and the best, completely forgetting about his true desires. Life does not know how to joke and endure for a long time, and by dismissal shows a person that work is not the whole life. This is a frontal attack so that the person changes his mind. Why is such an employee fired? And what chef wants to hear someone's rapid breathing in his back? We have no irreplaceable ones, therefore, those who strive to take a higher place are removed.

So what should you do if you get fired?

No hysteria

Resist the temptation to throw a scandal and throw a tantrum for the spectacle of ill-wishers. You should swallow offensive words, “put on” a smile and “march” the last exit.

There is no need to try to steal, erase, spoil information in a computer, drag clients and set up a boss, for example in court, by selling confidential information. All such actions will sooner or later come back to haunt you with losses:

• The market segments are actually very narrow and potential employers will soon be aware of your antics.
• If you are expecting a former boss to truly regret firing you in the future, the opposite steps should be taken.

Pull yourself together, and on the last working day say goodbye warmly, say that you worked with pleasure, and this experience will be very useful to you. Of course, you may not be called back, but they will definitely give a good description.

People are greeted by their clothes, and make sure that they walk you through the mind, not hysterics.

Sobriety, poise, composure and laconicism are the main qualities of professionals. Therefore, even if you were fired for non-objective reasons, do not be zealous in righteous anger. The conflict will not lead to good, but will ruin your reputation. “Hotheads” will always lose to “cold minds”.

Maintain your dignity, walk away proudly and even affably. The time will come and you will be proud of yourself.

Leave right

Leaving work is not about leaving your wife or husband. Leave all these attacks of pride, they say, I don't need anything from you, take everything for yourself. You need to work two weeks according to the law - work it out. You need to get calculated and bypass the offices with a bypass sheet - do it.

Dismissal is not a dead end, it is a new stage.

Remember that you were fired, not thrown out, your paths went wrong, and you were not betrayed.

Do not look down at your feet, as if apologizing that your spirit did not dissipate instantly in the office.

Don't hang your nose

Fired? Perfectly! Now there is time to think and make childhood dreams come true. Perhaps you are far from an ordinary accountant, but an artist. A positive attitude is half the battle on the road to happiness.

There are no desperate situations, even from the most-most, as a rule, there are four ways out.

Even if you lost in a corporate war, and temporarily lost your income, this is not a reason to doubt your own intelligence, strength and luck. There will be a holiday on your street, especially since now you have time to organize this holiday yourself. Away with depression and despondency.

Remember that sometimes a great flight starts with a kick. Take a running start and forward to new achievements.

Choose your job carefully

If you have been fired from your CFO position, then you should not go straight to the bakery to cook. Bake pies at home as a treat for your family. Just because your former boss fired you doesn't mean you are a bad employee and not a professional in your field.

Do not waste your time on trifles, do not settle for crumbs when a whole ruddy loaf is waiting for you.

Think, the area in which you worked is really your liking? Maybe it's time to radically change your life?

Relax

Consider that you were not fired, but that you took a vacation at your own expense. And vacation is a good thing. So be on vacation, not overboard. Read, attend courses, go to the sea, which you have not traveled to for the last ten years. Get busy with handicrafts, build a bathhouse, or at least clean up the pantry, and make yourself a workshop there.

Don't let the blues steal your free time and inject loser symptoms into your personality. A lot of free time will appear in your life, and these voids need to be filled with something really worthwhile.

According to psychological practice, such a situation is a nutritious component for the manifestation of neurological diseases, if, of course, stress, fears for the future and low self-esteem are close to the heart. A person can fall into a vicious circle: getting depressed due to lack of work, he cannot find it.

If this state of mind lasts for a long time, then depression can be replaced by physical illness.

This effect is often seen in laid-off and retired people. For example, a pensioner immediately after retirement begins to age rapidly, he kind of allows himself to get sick, because now there is time for this.

Break the ties

Nobody forbids to support “nodding” acquaintances. Let it be superficial sometimes. In this case, the former team acts as a handkerchief during a cold.

Each time you wipe your tears, you will be charged with an old infection. You were hurt when you were fired, and will hurt in the same way every time you live the life of the past collective.

There is no need to find out who came to your place, how things are going at the company, where the chef has gone to rest, etc. And in the future, having found a better job, do not rush to immediately drag and drop one of your former employees.

Don't take old defeats with you into your new life. Of course, it happens that a real friend is found in an old team, but this rarely happens.

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What to do?

The most important thing is not to succumb to the emerging negative emotions. Of course, you will be unpleasant, humiliating, insulting and even scary - but do not let all this swallow you, otherwise depression can attack you. Negative emotions affect a person so badly that often after depression they really fall ill. And there are no hopeless situations, therefore - forward to new beginnings! Who knows - maybe the old has already outlived its own and it's time to develop further, to achieve more?

Isn't it time to think?

Have you ever caught yourself thinking that it would be nice to change jobs? If what you have been doing is not enjoyable, is this your chance to find your purpose?

By the way, are you already tired of working, working and seeing nothing but work? Pause, reflect on your life. Remember what you always wanted. Did you go that way? If not, you have the opportunity to fix it! Relax, relieve tension, decide what you would like to do now, and then start looking for a new job. At the same time, the most important condition is not to feel sorry for yourself, not to cry about what you have lost and not to delay with. It is pleasant to rest, but it is addictive, so as soon as you have restored your strength and fighting spirit, start acting.

By the way, why not think about opening your own business? Sounds tempting? Or maybe you've dreamed about it before? Then, after dismissal, you can fully and completely devote yourself to your own brainchild. After all, what could be better than working for yourself?

Have you learned your lesson?

This is another side of the layoff. Lesson. Yes, you heard right! Of course, it is quite possible that you were fired completely undeservedly, but all the same you will have to endure something instructive. Somewhere you are wrong. Analyze your work, complaints against you, relationships with management and colleagues. Objectively evaluate everything, it's not for nothing that they say that there is no smoke without fire. If it turns out that the problem is that you did not cope with the duties as it should be, think about refresher courses or retraining, learn a foreign language. In short, take care of yourself. And new skills will appear, and will increase, and you will get the opportunity to apply for a higher position.
He who seeks finds!

To find a job you will need:

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covering letter.

Post your resume on the Internet, but do not limit yourself to a passive position, do not wait for a call. Contact the employment service, go, search, call, visit. Don't be afraid to ask why you got fired. Prepare a decent and truthful answer. The latter, by the way, is a prerequisite, because you can be checked by calling your old place of work.

Financial crisis?

What if there is no work yet, but the money is gone? Reduce costs by matching desires and possibilities, and discard unnecessary things. Find a part-time job as a freelance translator, journalist. Who knows, maybe you will like the free schedule so much that you will realize that you have found yourself. If not, you will earn extra money until a permanent job appears.
Or maybe you have an interesting hobby? It can also be turned into a source of income, and even realize oneself in it.

Remember:

Take care of yourself! Do not get addicted to junk food, do not quit playing sports. should become daily and habitual! Keep fit for new beginnings!

If you feel sadness or other negative emotions, remember all your achievements, those moments when you were happy with yourself.

Do not self-flagellate, it will only lead to a decrease in self-esteem and depression. See things realistically, just forgive yourself for what you were wrong about, and don't do it again.

Tell those around you why you got fired. It's better than having the wrong rumor reach them.

Do not hesitate to take advantage of someone's protection, do not refuse help. Feel free to talk to people about your job search. The more friends you know about what is happening, the faster you will cope with the situation!

Do not limit yourself to searching only in one field of activity. Do not be afraid to try something new - maybe you will reach great heights there.

When you receive rejections, do not be discouraged and do not give up. The reason may not be in you, but in the fact that at the moment new employees are not required in this company. Never forget to leave your resume - who knows, maybe tomorrow someone will decide to quit and immediately remember you?

How to survive being fired?

“Olga Ivanovna is 36 years old, for the last 2 years she worked as an accountant in a large organization, was a promising employee and dreamed of promotion. I heard the news of the dismissal from the new director, who took office a month ago.

The chief called to his office and said that the company no longer needed her services. Indifferently thanked for the work and offered to leave of his own free will. He spoke indistinctly about shortcomings in work, hinted at incompetence. It was not possible to achieve any specificity, general phrases.

Olga Ivanovna was shocked, she did not see the reasons for dismissal. Resentment, irritation, anger rolled up a lump in my throat. Uncertainty awaited her ahead ... "

Almost every person in life has faced dismissal. Abrupt changes associated with the loss of earnings, painful searches for work at an already elderly age only add to the fear of a new reality. How to survive being fired and keep faith in yourself? Why is the loss of a job hitting pride so hard? How to find a decent new job?

Why is the dismissal so acute?

Almost always, the situation associated with dismissal is perceived painfully. The reason lies in our unconscious. The leader and the Company are perceived by us as the parental para-symbolic Father and Mother.

Father (leader): teaches, directs, develops (sends for negotiations, trainings, seminars); closely monitors achievements (monitors employee performance, reports, plan implementation); shows severity and generosity (punishes with a reprimand, scolds, fines, rewards).

Mother (Company): takes into his arms (collective); feeds, drinks (gives out a salary); develops (gives an opportunity for career growth); entertains (corporate events and holidays).

Losing your job is like breaking your bond with your symbolic parents. An employee, like a small child, feels that mom and dad no longer need him, he is no longer loved and driven away. From this it becomes painful and insulting. As if the child has become "bad", and the Mother, whatever she is, remains the Mother. You can no longer rely on the Father, he is more interested in other children.

Team (children of the Company and the Manager). The Child competed with them for the love of Dad and Mom, swore with them and had fun. And now, after the dismissal, the symbolic family is gone and no one can fill this place in the soul. Aggression, anger, depression are what a child feels when he has lost his place among brothers and sisters.

Feelings are quite understandable

There is no need to take this situation as a tragedy and go deep into melancholy. The relationship with the symbolic Father and Mother always ends when a joint activity, project, task ends. Relationships are not based on love, but on mutual benefit.

Many people, thanks to the dismissal, have finally found themselves, benefited from this situation and even became famous. Who knows, maybe fate is giving you a chance?

5 steps to beating a situation

You have opened a new chapter of your biography, finally you have time for yourself, accumulated cases, forgotten hobbies and unfulfilled desires. It's time to take care of yourself!

Embrace a new experience.

Analyze what really happened, why were you fired? Consider the possible reasons: being late, a decrease in your efficiency at work, injustice from your bosses, your own laziness and fatigue, professional and emotional burnout? Or have you "reached the ceiling" in your position and you had nothing to strive for?

1. Your strengths.

What are your virtues? Perhaps you are a great organizer, a responsible executor, a great partner or workmate. What tasks did you do best?

2. Determine the motion vector.

Decide in which area you will continue to move further? All roads are open before you. You can improve in a field you are familiar with, or feel free to change your occupation. What do you want from a new job, position? Consider the opportunity to organize your business. Many successful people found themselves in entrepreneurship just after they quit their jobs.

Even after losing your favorite job, do not be discouraged. An important stage in your life has ended, there is a new one ahead, approach it responsibly. Do not blame everyone in a row for your troubles, do not blame yourself, do not engage in self-criticism. Make the right decisions about what not to do in your new job. Thanks to this situation, you have become wiser, your next choice will be conscious and correct.

4. Get ready for your new job.

In the process of finding a job, pump your professional skills. If internal blocks and fears prevent you from aiming for more, see a psychologist. Recover emotionally and keep working on yourself. One hundred percent win can only be in one competition, when you compete with yourself yesterday.

5. Work to your liking.

Work should be fun and enjoyable. Do what you like. The result is measured not only by salary, but also by the level of satisfaction from the business you are doing day in and day out.

Take action, everything is in your hands!

Dec 13, 2018 billh41235