What does the expression mean, you can't jump over your head. Myths of non-systemic parents

24. The disciple is not higher than the teacher, and the servant is not higher than his master: (Luke 6:40). If the expression "Son of Man" in the previous verse is understood in the sense as indicated, then the words of verse 24 contain a very subtle transition to further speech. The Son of Man is treated and

Meanwhile, if limiting beliefs do not allow life to fully open up, it may be worth reassessing your positions and getting rid of the stereotypes that have formed. Consider one of the common myths and beliefs of parents and caregivers.

Myth 1. "You can't jump above your head"

And what is it really? And in general, who determines our "ceiling"? The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan shows well how our desires work, and in which case the illusion of a “limit” of possibilities can arise.

Each person, according to system-vector psychology, is born with a certain set of desires and their characteristic properties, necessary for the fulfillment of his life task. Eight vital tasks correspond to eight vectors that are not similar to each other.

According to system-vector psychology:

Each our desire is provided with opportunities (our properties) for its realization.
... We take pleasure in realizing our desires (according to our vectors).
... We get the more pleasure the more we realize ourselves for others, i.e. in society.
... Living by other people's attitudes and goals, we do not advance, do not achieve, do not get pleasure.

Therefore, in a sense, we are really limited by our innate properties. But we do not seek to overcome them, because if there are no properties, there are no desires.

Likewise, an anal person will never become an athlete or a businessman, where clarity and speed of reaction are important. He cannot and will not want to. Nature is wise and does not give us desires that we cannot fulfill.

There is only one obstacle - not understanding your desires and how best to realize them, according to the principle of pleasure. And also the interpretation of us by other people (for example, the ideas of parents about children), who judge our achievements through the prism of their desires and abilities (their vectors). In expressing their opinion, they only speak out their inner experiences, and not our real situation.

Sometimes parents say: we couldn't, so you can't either. But often the child's vectors differ from the parental ones, which means that his abilities are different, as are his aspirations.
Saying to ourselves or to another “you can't jump over your head”, we put false barriers where they are not really there.

In addition, the environment plays an undeniable role. Even having the same vector set with others, a child can achieve strikingly different results if he can choose an ideal environment for himself for the development of his inclinations: starting with the circles, and then the educational and work collective.

But a child with an anal vector can be especially influenced: in a few years he will go

A young pink flamingo named Sashka quarreled with his relatives and friends (he didn’t like that not only he was alone, but everything around was such a beautiful pink color) and, saying to himself: “Well, okay, I’ll live without them”, flew away to nothing a lake where there were no birds at all.
After wandering alone, Sashka soon got bored and looked under the water. Finding a whole school of fish there, Sanya was delighted and asked to be accepted into his flock. The fish, of course, were amazed at this quirk, but did not object, because they were curious: what would come of it? And Sanya, without thinking twice, dived: he had seen more than once how cleverly ducks do it. But flamingos are not a duck. The feathers got wet, I swallowed water ... I would have drowned if the fish had not been carried ashore.
Sashka lay down on the shore, opened his eyes and saw: two gophers, standing on their hind legs, were watching the sky, looking out for birds of prey. Sanya was delighted: you cannot drown on the ground. “Take me to your team,” he asks. The gophers conferred and accepted: it hurts his legs are good and his neck is long, a view from such a height is what you need! "Whistle, if anything," said the main gopher, sending the newcomer on duty. “I know it myself,” Sashka said and it became important to turn his head in anticipation of his success.
He immediately noticed the hawk, but Sanya had never tried to whistle before and did not even know how to do it. While he was figuring out what to do, other watchmen whistled and all rushed to the nearest burrows. Sanya also gave a runaway and - into the hole. Only in the waist it is much thicker than a gopher - it is stuck.
The hawk, seeing such stupidity, gave up chasing the gophers and, grabbing the bird by the tail, pulled it out and rose into the sky. But Sasha was lucky again: the predator could not keep such a heavyweight, dropped it, but right into the rose bush.
The rosehip has blossomed only recently - all in flowers, pink, like a flamingo .... The hawk circled, did not find the fallen prey and flew away, grumbling with annoyance.
And Sasha is already to the bees, that they collect nectar from flowers, to stuff: take it to you and take it. And he asked for it: he promised to protect the hive in the hollow from the bears-destroyers. Only Sanya never saw a bear - he thought it was an insect from a bear *. So, when the bear climbed a tree for honey, Sanka gave a tree. I got scared - I didn't even remember about the wings right away….
Flies up to the river, and at the very shore - a hubbub. These are thousands of birds, weavers, weaving their nests on branches hanging over the water. “Well, nothing will happen to me in a flock of birds,” Sanya decided and set to work. He tried very hard, because he wanted to make such a nest - all the small fry to envy! Not from dry grass, but from thick stalks of coastal sedge. But the branch could not stand it, broke off, and all this beauty fell into the water.
Then Sashka could not resist and began to cry: well, why so bad luck all day! And an old turtle looked out of the water, looked at the roar, shook her head and said: “Well, why are you fooling around? Go back to yours. You can't jump above your head. "
Sanka was not going to jump higher than his head - this is ridiculous, because the head, no matter how much you jump, is still from above, there is nothing to check. But he agreed to return to his own: the elders must be obeyed, and in general ... somehow enough adventures.
When Sashka returned, everyone was delighted: “But we thought the jackal took you away. Look, look at this bastard. " The jackal, out of fright, when angry pink birds attacked him in a whole crowd, climbed a tall tree and now he could not get down - he just whined pitifully ...
The jackal is a villain, but you still feel sorry for him? Well, then the end of the story will be like this: the jackal, without waiting for his return, went in search and, finding the jackal in the tree, gave this loser such a blow that the poor fellow was blown off the tree like a wind.

* Medvedki are very large insects that live in burrows under the ground.